10 Questions to Deepen Your Connection with a Partner

My husband and I created our Self-Inquiry deck as a way to stay connected and cultivate intimacy on our path. Part of what keeps our relationship alive and healthy is that we are creative about how we keep learning and stay curious about each other. This kind of inquiry is not for the faint of heart. It takes willingness, being real, courage and commitment! The benefits of which are endless!

No matter how long you've been with someone --a month, a year or a decade-- there's always something new and exciting to discover, if you ask and listen. Here are 10 intimacy-sparking questions to explore with your partner over coffee, wine, a walk, a fire, anywhere you can relax together. They are designed to spark curiosity and bring you closer.

  1. What does spirituality look like for you? (Church, ecstatic dance, yoga, therapy, etc?)

  2. What social issues pull at your heart right now? How would like to be involved?

  3. What legacy would you like to leave for the world?

  4. How do you feel about technology and its place in relationship?

  5. What are two gifts you got from your parents, (e.g discipline, compassion) and how have they served you?

  6. What makes you feel alive and turned on? When was the last time you felt this way?

  7. If you came with a warning label, what would it say?

  8. Who are the three most influential people in your life (alive or deceased)? And why?

  9. What are you most grateful for and why?

  10. What's on your bucket list?