Tiger Woods/John Gosselin/General Petraeus hit the front pages, and readers are shocked shocked. Powerful men have a higher sex drive, says one expert; Men are just wired that way, says another. If women dont want their men to stray, they need to turn up the passion in the bedroom. And I say Pleeeeze! We all know that men do not have a corner on the hormone market; the secrets out and the facts are in, so enough with this foolishnessat least come up with something original. Instead of acquiescing to whats PC (politically correct) and getting on the oh-so-boring, poor, poor, sex-depraved male bandwagon, how about I direct your attention over here, to what Im calling SI: Spiritual Incontinence. Defined: a sudden swift departure from ones internal compass, brought about by the unconscious wound of separation. SI, I believe, is a malady that most of us who live in the western world not only suffer from but, ironically, subscribe to. We know what the high road is, and choose to submit to our lower nature, to hell with the consequences. And yes, I said choose. Its one thing to be broke and uneducated and thus make poor choices out of ignorance; its another to be out of integrity and behave abominably on purpose. You see, I am not a believer that people do the best they can; nope, I believe that people just do what they do. (And, in many cases, whatever they can get away with.) Unless you are a bona fide junkie, addicted to the rush of break-up and make-up, wake up and smell the truth: First, being famous, powerful, rich, or having a penis, in general, is not a precursor to infidelity or cheating. The difference between being a cheater and having cheated is gaping. If you dont know the difference, bone up and grow up. There is no longer an excuse for not educating yourself unless you cannot read. Second, women who choose to be in relationship with men who are cheaters do so because we are either afraid to be abandoned or alone, are financially dependent, are defined by a man wanting or loving us, or simply do not yet honor and respect ourselves. NOT because we love him and want to stand by our man. This is immature love and romanticized attachment. And if your man has moved from having cheated to being a cheater, he doesnt need help. You doget some, and some self-respect while youre at it. You will be thrilled you did in the long run! Third, do you know what one of womens greatest strengths is? One of our greatest gifts? Our intuition. Use it or lose it. Look, we know! We see the red flags; we just want what we want. We want handsome, tall, and strong/rich, powerful, and sexy/ hunky, artistic, etc., etc., guys who will sweep us off our feet and well live happily ever after. We like the idea of love, not the reality. And I gotta tell you this; fantasy gets us into more trouble than just about anything. Slap yourself. Pay attention. Do your homework. Very few men turn into cheaters who were not already cheaters of some kind. The writing is on the wallread it OR pay the price. How much is your peace of mind, your soul, worth? Ill bet these mens wives asked themselves that. Heavy price to pay, I say! And, fourth and last (for now, anyway). Wanna stay a victim and a blamer, or embrace the path of a skilled relationship warrior goddess? Maybe its time to fan your inner flame, turn up the volume of your passionate heart, and say YES to whats most sacred and NO to what is not. To deny any suitor who has not taken care to bow before the divine, honor women and children, to live by the code inscribed in their deepest core, whose life reflects this on and off the field. Unlike other forms of incontinence, this one can be cured! Great relationships begin within!