Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for reaching out and then taking care to clarify things for me. My heart goes out to you during this difficult time! Let’s start with your questions:
Read moreDeath becomes you!
What if you just let go? Let it all go? All your attachments: your life as you know it, your identity, what you think of other people, of what other people think of you? All the people, places, things, thoughts, feelings,
Read moreDate and mate like you're rich, for free!
To an outsider looking in, it must appear that our dating culture is based around monetary worth. And that’s not too far from the truth – we use money as a tool not only for dating, but for hanging onto a relationship that might otherwise fall apart.
Read more4 useful questions to ask when confronted by "The Pink Elephant"
While most of us have developed various coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with blustery situations, including confrontation, therapy, drinking heavily, freaking out, leaving, and divorce, the pink elephant is quite a different animal!
Read more5 ways to show love
There are literally hundreds, if not hundreds of thousands of ways we can behave, things we can do that could be considered loving. Yet it is from where the gesture comes that distinguishes the loving act from the empty gesture. What good, for example, is it
Read morePro Life? How about Pro Dad?
First, this is a rant, not a blog. I hope you will indulge me anyway. There are few things I feel more passionate about, and I know I am not alone. Having been a single mom for over ten years, I know so many of you can, do and will relate. And I must warn you, it’s rated R, so I apologize in advance for any offense that may occur. Here we go…
Read moreThe Inner-View Part Two: 5 steps to being Heart Smart
One of my favorite Maryanne mantras is (with gestures): you have to learn how to use this (your head) before you do this (have sex) so you don’t break this (your heart)! And for many of us we can sadly add…again. Sounds simple enough, right?
Read moreCan prayer spice up your love life?
I know, most of us cross our legs when we think about GOD and sex simultaneously, so surely it’s a stretch to imagine praying could be spicy. And then there are those of us who a long time ago made the separation between church and mate and don’t give it a thought. But why not? What if we did at least entertain the notion?
Read moreRelationship Spring Cleaning checklist
Your Spring Relationship Cleaning checklist…do you have one? Like everything else, relationships go through cycles and phases… sometimes we face really long, long harsh and lonely droughts, or painful, drawn-out intense periods, or perhaps you're currently enjoying the "pink cloud” effect of a new love! Wherever you find yourself, I am here to help you get ready for Spring
Read moreTop 5 male mating myths
Here are the top 5 male mating myths: let me know if you have other suggestions!
1) All the good ones are taken;
2) A man’s penis has a mind of its own;
3) All men only want one thing;
4) Men are dogs;
5) Good guys are boring.
Sound familiar? Let's take a closer look.
Read moreIs your password strong?
A very attractive single mom recently told me this story: She had met a man and felt sure he was the man of her dreams. There was a synchronicity about their meeting she could not ignore; the chemistry was electric and the sex, she said, was the best she had ever had—in her life, I might add. It had to be love, she gushed! But she had a question for me. “What do you think this means?
Read moreRelationship Dirt Part 3: Top 5 questions you should ask every man on a first date
Mastering the art of the inner-view is worth every effort; slowing down, taking time to get to know someone and asking the tough questions, waiting to see if someone’s answers are revealed in their actions, remembering all the while that real love cannot be negotiated and great relationships begin within. And why not? What better investment is there when it comes to the real thing; authentic connection, the foundation for a loving, lasting relationship? Unless you’re convinced
Read moreRelationship Dirt, Part 1
When I was a little kid I used to make mud pies out of dirt and water and secretly leave them on my neighbors’ doorsteps. In my five-year-old mind, if they accepted the “pie” it meant they were friendly, had a sense of humor, were open, and likely safe to play around and with. If not…they weren’t; I didn’t take it too personally and moved on to the next house. I didn’t try to make them like the pie or want the pie, explain why I left the pie, call them, stalk them, cry myself to sleep,
Read moreNo benefits, all friends?
It’s that time of year. Summer is in full swing and the fever pitch is HIGH! No more bundling up your chakras, you say, it’s time for some “sex on the beach”! Okay, but let’s get a few things straight before we high-tail it outta hibernation and into free love. First, there ain’t no such thing as a free lunch (or love), at least not that kind of love. And unless you are immoral or completely without a conscience, you need to
Read moreLike a virgin (with a shovel)
“Hello and welcome to We Already Have your Money and There’s Nothing You Can Do About It. Para enlese conrtolato numero uno.” (Shoot, did I dial the wrong number? I panic for a second and wonder why on earth I learned to speak Italian and not Spanish.) “For English, press two.” There she is again, I think; who is that lady, she sure gets around, I wonder if I’ll ever run into her on a plane or hear her voice in line somewhere and I would be like, OMG it’s the lady on the
Read moreHot and hormonal seeking trade!
Q~ I’m a fifty-something, single, more Bu-ish than Jewish woman looking to get back out in the dating world. I am not thrilled with the idea of online dating but realize when it comes to the law of attraction, I need to get the ball rolling. The problem is, I am not feeling as marketable as I was in my thirties and forties, never mind my hormones are raging like a teenager—except now, instead of blooming, it seems I am about to lose my blossom. Any suggestions on how to attract a great mate?
Read moreWife, slave, or prostitute?
I just have to share some of the things I learned in my Philosophy class. Dr. Schreibman is a brilliant teacher, and you won’t believe what I’m finding out! I quote (myself, in a recent paper, leaving out the footnotes and bibliography): In ancient western civilization (700-300 BCE) women were relegated to three primary roles: Wife, Slave or Prostitute. During this period they were further regarded as men’s legal wards, could not own property or engage in significant business transactions. A woman’s children belonged to the husband
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